I like to go spontaneously to events. And at events I feel like going to. One afternoon, I saw an event that took place on a Sunday and was actually a 40-day yoga, meditation and personal development program. Here I met Adrian Gheorghiu, at Power Yoga Romania, a yoga studio he owns with his wife, Adriana Gheorghiu. Together they have two wonderful boys.
From the moment we met, I felt both of them very open, kind, ready to share, support you, be close to you.
I talked a little with Adrian and I was impressed by his story, so I invited him to an interview. I learned that in recent years he was Vice President of a tobacco company in Canada, had a salary of 5 digits per month, 6 figures per year, had a house, a car, a school for children paid by the company and yet – he resigned, returned to Romania and did the yoga studio where he teaches with his wife.
We talked about his childhood, about his life, about his professional activity.
He is from Constanta. Up to 10 years of age he had a perfect childhood. With playfulness, adventures, beautiful vacations.
After the age of 10, everything has changed. His father, the director of the Mamaia resort at that time, killed himself, and as a result of this tragic event, his mother, a teacher, became mentally ill.
Adrian remembers how she wanted at one point to take him and his sister’s hand and throw themselves in front of the train together.
From his happy childhood, without worries, he had to mature immediately. While other children were playing, he and his sister were on the bus to take his mother’s lunch to the hospital.
He and his sister lived alone in the apartment and were very lucky with their aunt and uncle, who took care of them both financially and emotionally.
Because his mother was in the hospital, and the sister at school, he had to self-discipline, make a strict program that he wrote down on an agenda, he had to learn how to cook.
From the puff of living before the age of 10 when he had everything and was considered the prince of the family, he woke up with nothing, more than that he had to make money to survive.
He has been employed at the age of 14. He worked in bars, hotels, restaurants, carried luggages.
At 20 he came to Bucharest, more to escape from home. He entered the Faculty of Construction, and in second year of school, one of his friends helped him to hire. He had become the mascot of the B.U.a perfume brand, he went through shopping centers, in central markets of Bucharest, to events, parties wearing the brand’s costume.
At one point, one of his colleagues was offered the opportunity to bring Estee Lauder to Romania. And because he liked Adrian and the way he worked, he started to open his first store in Romania.
After a while in a club, he met a woman who worked in the human resources department of Reynolds, a cigarette company. He was invited to interview this company and was accepted as Financial Analyst. One month after his employment, this company was bought by JTI.
Adrian: I committed myself to factory costs, I made inventories, then they started promoting me, at the Sales Department and I did all kinds of jobs.
Stefania: Were you passionate about what you were doing?
Adrian: I was not passionate, for me the main thing was to have a salary, a consistent income so I can support my family at home and have a decent living. And the super-cool people helped me a lot, the JTI gave me stability, helped me calm down.
I came from the streets, I had no weaknesses, no mercy, there was rigor, discipline, what I liked, I had that in mind. And now I see myself with the children, I am the bad cop, “we wake up at that time, we get dressed, we go to school; I have an agenda – what I do tomorrow, what happens next week. ”
Stefania: But why is it important for you to be that way? To be disciplined I mean.
Adrian: Because that’s how I create, this is for me a creation, for me it doesn’t really go that far with “hmm, what are we doing now? Let’s teach an hour of yoga, or let’s have a discussion. ” It has to be an integral part of something, for example “why do I do this?” Do you understand what I mean?
Stefania: I mean, you don’t just feel to do a thing and do it.
Adrian: Yes, I like creativity, but for me it means discipline.
Adrian: Yes, for me it means to propose to do something and even to do what you proposed. I am not the kind of man for whom creative means “I woke up today with an idea and I write or draw it, like: what do you think about this idea?”.
I have those moments too, but I don’t focus on them. It gives me energy to know what I have to do. It gives me the idea of ”how do I want my life to look like in a year?”, “How do I want this studio to look in a year?”, “How do I want my relationship with children to be in a year?”
And to I work towards what I propose. This is why I really liked JTI because it brought me to this part which for me, which was somewhat natural, to work on an agenda, what you set out to do and you work for what you do.
Stefania: But you know that there are some people who – in you, for example, this subject with discipline is prevalent (we will return to your personal activity), make an agenda, follow what I want to do and even put into practice and say that this is somehow exploring creativity – others say that creativity means “I wake up in the morning, do I feel like doing today?” not necessarily pursuing the agenda rigorously, but simply letting go.
Adrian: It’s phenomenal and I respect them and they are adorable, it’s great to have this lifestyle where you have the power to leave yourself a little, or more, in a flow of thought.
Ever since I left the corporation, never mind the strictness of the corporation and a boss, and a deadline and so on, I seem to lose my energy, doing nothing during the day.
Stefania: If you don’t have an agenda, or what?
Adrian: Yes, because I don’t have something clearly established, like “what am I doing now? What do I do next week? ”And these are all from a vision: what do we want to do with the yoga studio? What do I want to do with my golf project? They all go to something bigger that I sit in and think about and analyze and put my mind to the contribution once a month or once every two weeks.
For me the most important thing in life is action.
I’m not the kind of man I can sit to analyze, think, twist.
Stefania: But you have to feel it.
Adrian: I have a great feeling in myself, everything I did in my life was felt, it was not knowledge.
With a diploma from ASE, I came to Bucharest without a school, I started yoga without being a yoga instructor, all the decisions, the decision to be with Adriana is of the heart. I could say that I sometimes reproach myself: “I am not rational once to judge …” although, I told you, I am very organized, structured at the level of what I want to do, agenda, vision, how to look , when I close my eyes, creativity is in my brain as it encompasses, but from all that nebula I have to give it a shape and form is this thing for me: vision, mission, goals. Again, I come from the corporate world that went like a glove to me. I was already somewhat disciplined, so I could fight for life, and it came with structure, money and it gave me stability, it reassured me.
Yes, for me the action is more important than anything, it is very beautiful as I think, it is wonderful as I feel, but if I do not express my thoughts and feelings, if I do not put them in something, to put them into practice, nothing comes out.
It’s just mine and “what a great experience, or a frustrating experience.”
Adrian: Yes, because I remain unfulfilled. The results are the ones talking about you, not your thoughts, not your ideas.
Stefania: But I’m sitting and thinking, what’s behind this? To live your life, or what? Why is action so important to you?
Adrian: That’s me. For me, action is important because, perhaps an important element of my life is how to be known to people, appreciated, accepted, it is through what you do not by how you think or what you have feelings. And then for me life was very much about being accepted, not being alone, for me that was it.
Stefania: Where do you think this is coming from?
Adrian: Where do you think it comes from? Since I was left without parents at 10, not having the parents’ cocoon, I had 7 years at home and they helped me enormously, but to lose both parents at 10, to see the sick mother and does not recognize you and “come on, let’s throw ourselves from the block” … I do not think it is the most pleasant experience for a child of 11-12 years.
Finally, what I have is amazing, then for me everything was: where I belong, I am completely alone, on the street I showed no weakness, at home I showed no weakness and I am alone.
Stefania: Was that your conclusion?
Adrian: That I am alone, yes, I have no one to love me, no one loves me, I am alone and then all I did in my life was to seek love, to seek belonging, and belonging, from my point of view. sight, I do not gain by: “how beautiful I think” because no one knows what is in my head, but it is through what I do.
Adrian: How I express myself, how I behave, in conjunction with energy, God gave me a body, a great energy, to do a lot of things, not to get tired, to be physically OK for a long time. The two have corroborated, and life is about doing, life is about being, being OK with myself, being OK with others.
Then he told me about the experience at JTI. Due to his work and perseverance, at 24 he was already director. He was then sent to Turkey, Geneva where he spent a year.
Adrian: I moved to Geneva, a boss (his name was Zurap) called me there, I worked for him for a year, that year seemed to me a decade. A very fucking very demanding, very difficult, but wonderful man, that brilliant mind, great knowledge. That year I think there was no day, hour, in which not to curse him.
He left me voicemails, Sunday afternoon, sent me emails on Saturday night, what to say, a workaholic.
Stefania: What was the most important lesson you learned from him?
Adrian: Never give up! Stick to your idea, fight for it.
Stefania: Maybe it’s not for you. Maybe an idea comes to you and it’s not for you.
Adrian: Exactly, yes, if you believe in that thing Do it, no matter what, you’ll find a way.
Stefania: What have you learned? The second very important thing that helped you.
Adrian: From Zurap- to listen to people, to really listen. And I suffered a lot on this.
Adrian: That I didn’t listen to people and you realize, not being able to listen to them, they didn’t listen to me either.
Stefania: But how did you suffer? How did it make you feel?
Adrian: Frustrated, upset, I wanted in one direction, they wanted in another direction, I knew that is the right direction, but I didn’t know how to bring them, then when they got in the right direction and they saw, “you have seen, it was like me. ” Frustrations, annoyances, that’s what happens when you don’t listen.
Stefania: Did you say that this was the second thing, to listen to the people, the third thing?
Who helped you and helps you now.
Adrian: To be good with people, good in general, nobody goes to work like in kindergarten, or they don’t come to work to mess around, they come to work to make a living, to be respected as people. Nobody comes to steal or lie, when they are put in difficult situations people try to find a way out and then they become more strange situations, otherwise this idea of being good with people, that helped me a lot.
We started talking about how in the next 5 years he started to travel to places he didn’t even dream of: Brazil, Malawi, China, Japan, France, United States, after which he was offered a job in Canada because he wanted more stability.
In Canada he had a salary of 6 figures per year, all paid by the company: house, car, kindergarten, etc. He lived here for about 4 years, after which his wife, Adriana, told her that she wants to return to Romania.
In the meantime he started to go to a therapist to solve his inner problems.
In the second part of the interview we will tell how he discovered yoga, how it changed his life, and especially why he gave up his career in the corporation and started doing something else.
(to be continued…)
You ca find Adrian here: poweryogaromania.ro
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