Love letter to the most important person in my life
Have you ever thought who is the most important person in your life? Until some time ago I didn’t ask myself this question.
I took things for granted and I grew up believing that other people are the most important people in my life. Friends, neighbors, family. They were so important, that their opinion mattered more than my opinion. Moreover, I needed their approval. What to wear, what to do with my life, how to express myself.
I was listening when they told me to do something without even wonder if what I was told to do is what I want to do. I might even protest at the beginning, feeling that it is not ok for me, but in the end all I was doing what I was told. Because, in the opinion of others, was the “right thing” to do. And I did all that for a specific reason: I needed their approval, we needed their love.
I felt like, if I will not conform, I will not be loved.
How many people are not like that ?!
And I was like this as well. Until at one point when I said stop. Sometimes I felt that what I was required to do, not what I wanted for myself.
I was told to stay home, I wanted to go out with friends.
I was told to do something, I wanted the opposite. Or something else.
There is a moment in life, I can not say exactly when this moment occurs, but it is a magical moment. It’s the time when you start to say no.
No on that because it is not what I want myself. No, I do not want to go there. Nor have to explain, it is simply how you feel. No. No. No. And how much power you get from this no. When it is aligned with your desires, with what you want and what you do not want. No gives you the power to choose.
That magical moment is when you begin to put yourself first.
And it is the moment you start to see yourself, you begin to love yourself. Because until then you did not loved yourself. You did not loved yourself if you’ve listened to others and you did not listened to you. When you start to say no because that is what you want, is when you start listen to yourself. You pay attention to your needs.
Be happy when such a magical moment appears in your life. Be careful, you will feel bad when you will start to say no, you will feel guilty. It’s normal to feel like this if until the you were nice and obedient.
You woke up like this, rebellious, to do only what you want??
Yes. That is correct. Do what you want. Whose life do you think you live? Yours or others? If you live the other people life it is all right. Continue to seek their approval, continue to be good, continue to listen.
But if you decide to live your own life, you have to start to put yourself first, you have to start to listen, you have to learn to love yourself.
I wrote I love you on a plate. To see it every day. I know that I started to really love myself. Such a happiness! Such a peace!
Some time ago, a Life Coach told me: “Stefania, if I would give you a whip, I would see only traces on your back.” I’ll remember what she said all my life. So I don’t forget where I left from. And what a road I made! I learned a lot. I found myself.
Today I would say this:
Stefania, I love you for all that you are. I love the crazy person that you are sometimes, I love you for the peace that you have in you, I love you for your desire to make a better world, I love you because you believe in yourself, because you believe in others, I love you because you are direct, I love you with all your moods, I love you when you’re happy, serene, I love you when you’re upset, I love you when you’re angry, I love you when you’re acting like a child, I love you when you’re acting like a grown woman, I love you for the courage that you have in this life, I love you because you want to help people, to inspire them, to give them a hand, I love you for your curiosity, for your creativity, I love you because you’re real, I love you because you are pure love.
I love you. I love you. I love you.
Why do you love yourself? I would like you to share with me in a comment here below.
